Testimonials

‘This above all: to thine own self be true’

William Shakespeare

‘When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everyone will respect you.’

Lao Tzu

Male, 26

“I decided to see Ruth to get some help working through a number of small issues in my personal and professional life. From our first session I felt a confidence that Ruth knew how she could help me. I always feel comfortable in our sessions and come out with a renewed idea of how to achieve my goals. After 6-7 sessions or so I had tapered my frequency down to once a month and I am feeling the benefits and was able to stop. As a young male, I felt there was a stigma around seeking help, but now I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend it to anyone”

Female, 32

“I have found working with Ruth to be a really valuable experience; she provides a very non-judgmental space to explore and reflect on feelings and ideas as well as past and present events in my life. I particularly appreciated the range of approaches she took with me – for example, considering practical methods of dealing with specific situations as well as exploring why I found them challenging. Sessions feel comfortable and well-structured, and I am very grateful for all the help that Ruth has provided.”

Female, 45

“I saw Ruth for weekly therapy for almost a year. This was my first experience of psychotherapy and I found it to be an extremely positive experience. I found that Ruth’s supportive yet gently challenging style really helped me improve my understanding of some of the difficulties I had been having in my relationships and in gaining insights into ways of moving forwards towards communicating more assertively and effectively.”

Female, 52

“I wasn’t sure what sort of therapy I wanted – or indeed if it was really right for me- when I approached Ruth – having experienced the trauma of bereavement and a painful split from a very long term partner. I just knew that I needed some external help, and she sounded like the right person from her website. I have to say it was one of the best decisions I ever made. Each session left me feeling more confident and grounded. Ruth offered me a safe space in which to express myself, guidance in navigating my life and the challenges that I faced but I never felt directed. It also meant that I never felt dependent and when the time was right I was able to reduce my sessions naturally. I also feel that I can return when there are particular issues that I need external help with. To this day I can’t tell you what sort of therapist Ruth is. All I can say is that for me, she is excellent at what she does, she made – and has continued to make – a huge difference to my life and changed my (and my friends!) views about therapy and what it can do for you.”

Female, 27

“I worked with Ruth for around a year when I was dealing with the illness of a family member. Her kindness and warmth meant so much to me and our weekly sessions gave me the space and opportunity to think about myself instead of other people. It was important to me that someone understood what I was going through and Ruth did just that with a gentleness and encouragement that stays with me to this day. By the end of our time together I had reached some clarity about what I wanted for the future and had the confidence to pursue it. She helped me to recognise and quell some of my self-criticism and untangle some complicated and painful family relationships. I am very grateful for the time we spent together.”

Female, 38

“Ruth I can’t thank you enough for what you have done for me. I’m truly grateful for how you’ve helped me turn my life around.
You have a fantastic ability to make me feel so comfortable around you, to the point where I feel I could tell you anything. I look forward to and enjoy every session.
I couldn’t recommend you highly enough. You are kind, generous and so helpful and flexible with your time. Keep doing what you are doing, you are amazing! Thank you so much.”

Male, 44

“I was ‘signed off’ from work due to stress when I first saw Ruth and felt so relieved to gain an objective view on my overall situation. Over the course of six months I was not only able to return to face ‘the music’, but I felt empowered to put my case well. We looked together at the possibility of more suitable employment for me, I regained my sense of self and was able to change jobs. Looking back, it sounds simple, although it didn’t always feel so straightforward. But, I know now that my whole family has benefitted from the way in which Ruth gently, patiently and wisely guided me through times that seemed almost impossible and on into a more positive future; we are very grateful.”

Female, 37

“I am a 37-year-old female living and working in London. I have been seeing Ruth to support me to manage my clinical depression, as well as specific matters such as my divorce, family and relationship problems. I find it easy to trust and open up with Ruth because she is a very intelligent, credible and experienced therapist and our sessions are a confidential and safe environment. Over the last year, I have faced a number of challenges, both relating to my current life – personal and professional – as well as traumatic events from childhood. Due to Ruth’s breadth of experience and training, we are able to explore together this broad range of areas and different approaches to help me address and accept them. My sessions with Ruth really support me to gain insight into why I react to events in the way that I do and, importantly, help me see how I can change for the better my usual pattern of behaviours, in particular in relation to romantic relationships, relationships with my family, and my career. We spend time reflecting on specific events in my life, big and small, to support me to achieve a healthier balance in how I view these, the result of which is I have developed much more positive self-esteem and self-confidence. Ruth is an interactive therapist and I have come to look forward to my sessions with her as I know I will walk away more aware of who I am and how to manage situations that arise in my life. One of the key aspects of our sessions which I specifically value is that we consider not only my past and present, but how I can work to promote and sustain my positive well-being now and in the future.”

Male, 28

“When I first came to Ruth my communication in both personal and working relationships was at an all-time low. I have always had an active mind but could never portray it into meaningful words. My monthly meetings with Ruth have helped me so incredibly, not only with my communication but with my confidence surrounding it. The amount of friends and family that have noticed the change is unbelievable and I owe this to Ruth. I always look forward to our sessions and would highly recommend Ruth to anyone that felt the same as me when I started 18 months ago.”

Female, 38

“I was going through a difficult time emotionally and in my relationship. A friend recommended Ruth and I’ll always be grateful to my friend for the recommendation. Ruth is an excellent Counsellor who listens and is able to help you work through complex issues. Ruth creates a trusting and safe environment which allows you to express feelings. She has helped me in so many ways such as feeling more positive about myself, my confidence and my relationship. Thank you, Ruth, for being there always.”

Male, 53

“To date, I’ve worked through two distinct and separate sets of issues with Ruth (11 sessions first of all, and then 7), and always found her to be calm, patient, sympathetic and insightful. At all times I felt free to express exactly how I was feeling and what I was thinking; and Ruth gently guided me towards a healthier, more realistic perspective, and gave me the confidence to work out the right path ahead for me. I would recommend Ruth wholeheartedly.”

Male, 39

“Ruth saw me through a very stressful period in my life. Her guidance taught me a lot about my work and family situations and how to make improvements in both areas. She is easy to work with and I recovered my confidence as well as learning some useful techniques.”

Female, 37

“As a trainee psychotherapist, Ruth was the first psychotherapist I saw and she helped me steer my way through previously unchartered waters. I always felt safe in her company and she helped my self-development enormously, giving me confidence to explore issues that I had previously ignored. I saw Ruth for 30 sessions and left a much more confident and self-aware individual.”

Female, 47

“I am so grateful to Ruth for her compassion, understanding and wisdom. I used to worry about drivelling on about ‘first world problems’ and what she must think of me and others like me sometimes. But, in the end, what mattered was that the sessions made me feel much better!”

Female, 35

“I can’t even remember how I came across Ruth, but I do know that I’m very glad that I did. It was at a turning point in my life journey and the support and encouragement she gave, and the insights that I gained, were invaluable. Thank You, Ruth!”

Male, 37

“Ruth has assisted me gain greater insight into many aspects of my life, which has helped me to control various negative behaviours, including substance misuse.”

Male, 45

“Circumstances had pushed me to ‘rock bottom’ when I first saw Ruth and I could not see how things could possibly improve. Through these tough times, she helped me to begin to trust again – without being naïve – and to rebuild my confidence.”

Female, 40

“My long-term therapy with Ruth was alongside my University training in Counselling. It was a very unique experience in the sense that I was offered the flexibility of using the sand-tray art therapy whenever I felt comfortable with it. Initially I thought I would be having only a talking therapy – the most common way of dealing with pressing problems – but I was led by my curiosity towards the numerous figurines in the room (artefacts from all around the world) and I could not resist the temptation of testing out the dry and wet sand trays. The combination of talking and art therapy revealed a new world in front of me; my inner world. It was a very powerful experience which I truly loved. The sand-tray approach enabled me to access other levels of my self – the parts that I was suppressing for various reasons. The emergence of forgotten, unresolved issues to conscious surface was so insightful. It deepened my understanding of who I am and how I function as a human and most of all it helped me to process emotional content that was kept hidden for years and burdening me without me realising it! Working on my self-awareness through Jungian symbolic art therapy felt like lighting up the shadowy corners of my Self, a deeper exploration of myself and personal growth. This insightful therapy would have not been experienced without the warmth and gentle approach of Ruth. Her professionalism, empathic understanding, intellect and sense of humour created the safe space for me where I could trust her well enough to open up and work through my difficulties. Ruth has always been available and reliable throughout my two years of rigorous counselling training. I really appreciate her invaluable support.”

Female, 34

“Ruth has a very gentle and lovely manner, and she’s full of empathy. She created a safe environment for me to talk through my issues, and helped me understand and accept the difficult feelings I was experiencing, and untangle some emotional knots. I’m more assertive and confident now, and much better equipped at dealing with my emotions in a constructive and healthy manner.”

Female, 34

“Ruth has been an invaluable part of my personal development after having my daughter. Ruth has very kindly and gently directed me towards realising and now achieving my goals. Ruth has helped me to feel much more content and settled after moving to the UK 4 years ago. I would highly recommend Ruth to anyone who needs an excellent, kind and empathic listener.”

Male, 42

“I was surprised that I enjoyed my sessions with Ruth. She is wise and patient and talking about worrying issues with her was easier than I thought it would be! This time helped me open up to myself and to others, to feel ‘authentic’ and to pursue new possibilities. I couldn’t recommend her more highly.”

Female, 37

“Following my mum’s sudden death I found I simply wasn’t coping. I was in free fall and didn’t know how to start processing what had happened or how to begin to move forward. Ruth supported me to build the net I needed to be caught by, as well as to begin processing my grief. I found her style very gentle and encouraging, and it felt easy to open up to her. We only worked together over a few months but she supported me to develop coping strategies which I have found helpful in the intervening years.
Two years later I found my life was on a path towards major change. While I was happy to be getting married, I would also be moving abroad which filled me with fear. Without hesitation, I returned to see Ruth. I knew she would be able to help me navigate a good course through these choppy seas. We worked together over a couple of months to develop a plan for my future life, and I gained a much-needed understanding of the root of my fears. The first time I worked with Ruth she helped me to build a life raft and stopped me drowning. The second time we created a sail, and now I can set my own direction. I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend Ruth.
She is compassionate, a brilliant listener and incredibly insightful. Ruth supported me to develop coping strategies to get through a time of crisis. Before I met her I could not see a way out of the bleak place my mind was inhabiting. I worked with her again several years later, this time more proactively to get ahead of issues I could see coming my way. She helped me set a positive course through a time of considerable change, and I continue to use the skills she gave me on a regular basis to help me lead a very positive life. It is a world away from where I was when I first met her. I would not hesitate to recommend Ruth’s services.”

Female, 33

“Ruth is a supportive and curious practitioner who gently facilitated my process during the two years I saw her. I worked with Ruth throughout my psychotherapy training and appreciated her acknowledgement of the balance between personal process and working through sessions as a student. I particularly enjoyed having the opportunity to work with a sand tray in some of our sessions, and found our reflective discussions around this experience to be very beneficial.”

Female, 37

“I first started sessions with Ruth almost 10 years ago and have done a mixture of longer periods of therapy initially, with shorter periods of sessions nowadays. I will be forever grateful for the help Ruth has given me. Without fail, she has always been kind, thoughtful, amazingly perceptive and empathic. Her skill, expertise and ability to use a variety of techniques and adapt them to my particular circumstances has been ever so helpful. Thank you, Ruth!”

Male, 48

“Having 10 sessions with Ruth was a transformative experience for me. I have been understood and I understand myself now in ways I could not have imagined. Anger and fear were such a huge part of my formative years and, of course, they found a way into my adult life. The puzzle that was me now fits together and I realise what I have done that has been worthwhile and seeing this has helped me to grow further and develop new skills.”

Female, 27

“I started seeing Ruth in December 2014 at a time of real personal crisis. I was struggling to be able to hold down my demanding job as a secondary school teacher as a result of complicated family issues that were affecting my immediate ability to cope with maintaining healthy, positive relationships in all areas of my life.
I was originally incredibly resistant to the idea of counselling at all, as I had had such poor experiences previously, where counselling had left me feeling more vulnerable than when I arrived.
This could not have been more different from the moment I started my sessions with Ruth. Every session left me feeling more empowered to be an agent for change in my own life, even when I was confronting difficult emotions and complicated personal circumstances.
I intended originally to only see Ruth for six weeks; in the end, I saw her weekly for 6 months. This is not because I felt any pressure to book further appointments, but because the sessions became a vital part of my support system when the process of counselling revealed more deep-seated issues and past struggles with bouts of anxiety and depression.
Needless to say, almost two and a half years later, I feel more at peace than at any part of my life to date, and a large part of that is to do with the on-going support that Ruth gives me – whether an infrequent drop-in for a ‘mental health check-up’, or more regular sessions when life throws up its’ many challenges.
I don’t know what ‘form’ of counselling, coaching or therapy Ruth uses – all I know is that it works! I genuinely wish that all people who were struggling with the complicated world that we live in had someone as thoughtful, reflective and giving as Ruth as part of their system of support.
I am certainly very grateful for the role she has played in supporting me to become the best version of myself (or close enough!).”

‘Today you are you. That is truer than true! There is no-one alive who is you’er than you’

Dr Seus